It is beautiful what you wrote... "If today were their last day, would their lives have been well lived, however long it might have been? Thank you for sharing these thoughts. Thank you as well for your feedback.
This is something I reflect on often, both in how I live my own life and in how I support my children.
Like you, memento mori is what motivates me to look at how I’m living, not just what I’m achieving. As a parent, I think about the opportunities I’m enabling my children to choose, not just the achievements I’m helping them reach.
For a long time, the thought of losing a child caused me anxiety. I don’t like that version of myself. Fear can make you overprotective, and children feel that energy.
But when I reframe it as: If today were their last day, would their lives have been well lived, however long it might have been?
My whole approach and mindset changed. I relaxed. I stopped trying to control every outcome and start focusing on helping them live lives that are fulfilling for them, enabling them to make choices that empower them and bring them joy.
Of course, we get tired. Not every day is profound or joyful. Sometimes a well-lived day is simply surviving bedtime without losing my mind.
But even that awareness keeps me grounded and grateful.
Thank you for your feedback. I think the older we grow the more we will get to know what fulfills us in our life. However we need to know who we truly are. Some salues do change or adapt as well.
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It is beautiful what you wrote... "If today were their last day, would their lives have been well lived, however long it might have been? Thank you for sharing these thoughts. Thank you as well for your feedback.
This is something I reflect on often, both in how I live my own life and in how I support my children.
Like you, memento mori is what motivates me to look at how I’m living, not just what I’m achieving. As a parent, I think about the opportunities I’m enabling my children to choose, not just the achievements I’m helping them reach.
For a long time, the thought of losing a child caused me anxiety. I don’t like that version of myself. Fear can make you overprotective, and children feel that energy.
But when I reframe it as: If today were their last day, would their lives have been well lived, however long it might have been?
My whole approach and mindset changed. I relaxed. I stopped trying to control every outcome and start focusing on helping them live lives that are fulfilling for them, enabling them to make choices that empower them and bring them joy.
Of course, we get tired. Not every day is profound or joyful. Sometimes a well-lived day is simply surviving bedtime without losing my mind.
But even that awareness keeps me grounded and grateful.
Really resonate with this piece! Do you find that defining fulfillment changes the older we get, or do the core values usually stay the same?
Thank you for your feedback. I think the older we grow the more we will get to know what fulfills us in our life. However we need to know who we truly are. Some salues do change or adapt as well.