Stress, Simplicity and Joy
Memento mori
Today was a peaceful and fulfilling day, one of those days that gently reminds me how much simplicity matters. In the morning, I took the children to their activities. Later, Steph and I went out for lunch. I treated myself to a waffle topped with cherry chocolate and vanilla ice cream, an indulgence I enjoyed without hesitation. In the evening, we visited my mother, who had prepared a quiche. As always, her cooking was exceptional. This weekend, I truly treated my stomach, and I did so without guilt. I simply enjoyed the food, free from my usual worries about calories or weight gain.
[Photo: Sunset in Malta]
Later in the day, I found myself appreciating social media in an unexpected way. While scrolling through a Facebook page called Positive Energy+, I came across a question posted by one of its followers: "People who don't drink or smoke, how do you manage stress?" The question intrigued me, so I began reading the responses. There were hundreds of them, each offering a different perspective on how people cope with stress.
As I read through them, patterns began to emerge. Many people mentioned physical activity as their main outlet. Exercise of all kinds appeared repeatedly, from boxing and running to yoga, swimming, and various sports. Others spoke about walking, especially in nature, hiking, gardening, or dancing. Physical activity, it seemed, was one of the most common and effective ways people managed stress.
Another group focused on rest and self-care. Sleep, naps, meditation, breathing exercises, and simply spending time alone were frequently mentioned. These responses reminded me that sometimes stress does not need to be fought; it simply needs to be soothed.
Many people also highlighted the importance of social and emotional support. Spending time with family and friends, talking to someone they trust, and playing with children or pets were all mentioned repeatedly. I was also surprised by how many people referred to faith through prayer or attending church. I had not expected faith to remain so important to so many people in this day and age. I had assumed that belief in God had declined more than it apparently has. A few people also mentioned laughter as their escape. That answer stayed with me. I know how quickly my own mood can change after watching something funny on a difficult day. I especially enjoy Candid Camera or compilations of amusing pet videos.
Others described creative pursuits as their refuge. Music, whether listening, playing an instrument, or singing. Art in its many forms, from painting to crafting. Writing, journalling, reading, cooking, and baking. I was struck by how differently people respond to stress, yet how universal the experience of stress itself is. Not a single person claimed never to feel stressed. Instead, they shared how they had learned to live with it.
Some mentioned watching films, reading, playing video games, travelling, or even browsing the internet. Others found comfort in life's simple pleasures, drinking coffee or tea, spending time in nature, eating out, or being with animals. Several responses also focused on self-reflection, gratitude, changing one's mindset, and living with a greater sense of purpose.
Reading all of this reminded me that stress is something almost everyone experiences. At times, it is easy to feel as though I am the only one struggling, but that simply is not true. Stress affects people of every age and background. Many blamed modern life and the rise of individualism, often looking back at the past as though it were simpler and better. Yet every generation has faced its own challenges. Diseases that are now treatable were once life-threatening, and although there were fewer distractions, there were also fewer opportunities.
So what truly causes stress? Is it too much work, too little time, or unrealistic expectations? If I had to answer for myself, I would say that my stress usually comes from unresolved health concerns, overwhelming responsibilities, or difficult relationships. The most intense periods arise when these factors collide, when worries about my health, pressure at work, and strained relationships merge into one exhausting cycle.
As time goes by, I try to simplify my life. Yet I often catch myself making it complicated again by taking on too many commitments without even realising it. Once I become aware of it, I try to pause, reassess my priorities, and simplify my life once more.
Looking back at the many strategies people shared, I realised that several of them already play an important role in my own life. Writing deserves a special mention because it helps me untangle chaotic thoughts and gradually brings clarity. Staying busy also prevents my mind from spiralling, particularly when health worries begin to surface. Nature has a calming effect on me. Walking in the countryside, taking photographs, or simply snorkelling allows me to disconnect from everyday pressures and enter a quieter, more peaceful world. Exercise definitely helps as well. After twenty minutes of training, I almost always feel better.
Yet despite all these strategies, I believe one of the most powerful ways to cope with stress is by talking to someone you trust, someone who genuinely listens and empathises. There are moments when it is easy to fall into loneliness, apathy, or even depression, to feel lost and struggle to find the strength to move forward. During those moments, relying solely on yourself is not always enough. A good friend, a mentor, or a coach can make a profound difference.
Life will always be a balance between stress and peace, complexity and simplicity. I am learning that the key lies in knowing when to reset, when to lean on others, and when to simply let go and enjoy a waffle topped with cherry chocolate and vanilla ice cream, completely guilt-free.
[Photo: Mtahleb]
Sergio Morana is a photographer, writer, and educator based in Malta. Through photography and writing, he explores life's meaningful moments, personal growth, and the stories that connect us.
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